We work and work and work, but for what? Ideally, so we can eventually relax. We work so that we can put a roof over our heads that we can relax under. We work so that we can enjoy beautiful meals at restaurants with our friends. That is why we work. But we can forget that, and we can put off those activities to work some more.
For some, travel or even a massage isnt always a choice. But, the truth is, if you dont fit in a few moments of total relaxation every day, your performance at workand in every part of your life, including relationshipswill go down. Taking me time isnt selfish. Its actually a way to re-fuel so you can do the things you do for others, better. There is a way to make me time all the more valuable. Dont just use those moments to escape your reality. Use those moments to change the way you feel about your reality.
Los Angeles hypnotist Kristin Ellingson helped me do this through Invitation Hypnosis. This is a state of deep relaxation in which you can trick your own mindso to speak.
Without realizing it, we can be resistant to change. We can tell ourselves, with our conscious mind, that we like partners who are loving and generous, but our subconscious mind takes over and says no, you like difficult partners who come with turmoil. We can tell ourselves that we will have a more positive attitude about work, but our subconscious mind says but everything about this place makes you cringe!. Kristin can help those who are caught in a stress rut by training the subconscious mind to say what your conscious mind wants it to.
The first hour or so was spent discussing my life and finding what my biggest point of stress was. From there, Kristin asked me to come up with a few words that, if I could embody them, would help me combat that stress. I chose fearless, energized and empowered.
After putting me into a state of deep relaxation through a few mental exercises (not strenuous at all), Kristin encouraged me to envision a body of water, then a gift placed in front of me, and then a building. It was up to me what type of water, gift and structure it would be. And once the image was fully fleshed out, Kristin repeated those words: fearless, energized, empowered. She repeated them at a time when my brain was so relaxed, and my subconscious mind was essentially off guard that those words were really able to enter my brain. My subconscious brain wasnt saying youre not empowered, youre not fearless, youre not energized like it usually does. It was accepting the words I wanted it to accept.
Today, when I envision that place (for me, a clear blue Caribbean ocean, a box of black Converse and a sky scraper) I instantly feel those adjectives.
Taking a vacation is amazing, of course. Travelling and exploring new cultures is one of our biggest joys (especially those who read this site!) but one of the best things we get from travelling is a new perspective on our ordinary lives. Everyone deserves to develop that new perspective, even those who don't have the time or can't afford to travel. Through Invitation Hypnosis, you can train yourself to not feel the need to jump on a plane to escape negative emotions. You can take a mental vacation, right in your office, and come back from it maybe even liking your office a bit more.
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